Most NVC practitioners with privilege stop at empathy and humility. Miki Kashtan says that's a quarter of the way there. Here's the harder ask.

Miki Kashtan would say listening better is about a quarter of the way there. The harder teaching: needs-consciousness demands structural action proportional to your position.

The charge that NVC is a tool for the privileged deserves more than a defensive response. The critique is real — but it's hitting the wrong target.

There is a charge leveled at NVC that many practitioners have heard and few know what to do with: NVC is a tool for the privileged. That critique deserves an honest look — because the truth is more uncomfortable than either dismissing it or accepting it uncritically.