Understanding the other side isn’t the bottleneck. The image you’ve built of them is. Here’s what Nonviolent Communication does differently — and three moves you can try tonight.

Most advice about polarization says: try to understand the other side. You've probably tried. Here's why it didn't work — and what NVC does instead.

Americans consistently overestimate how extreme the other side is. The More in Common data is striking — and NVC's observation/judgment distinction is the practical tool for closing that gap.

Americans imagine nearly twice as many extremists on the other side as actually exist. The More in Common data is striking — and NVC's enemy image framework is the practical tool for reality-testing that image.